Sir Winston Churchill once said “For myself – I am an optimist. It does not seem to be much use being anything else.” Do you walk around thinking that your cup is half-full or half-empty? I choose to see my cup as half-full. I choose to see the positives in everything that happens to me and around me – because I believe that everything in life is a learning opportunity. Even the negative things that happen to you, and trust me there will be plenty of them, are really positives if you choose to look at them from a different point of view. (It also helps if you believe in fate) I believe everything that happens to you in life – happens for a reason. Whatever happens today is preparing you for what is going to happen tomorrow. (It may not be obvious at the time as you are going through it – but you’ll be able to connect the dots looking back)
I am without a doubt the most optimistic person you’ll ever meet. But besides being an eternal optimist I’m also a realist. (I do have my Dr. Phil moments of clarity) I know that I can’t control everything that goes on around me. I know most outcomes are out of my hands. But I do know that I can control how I choose to react in any given situation. I know that in that space between stimulus and response that Dr. Covey talks about is choice. I know that I must choose to react in a way that is going to get me what I want.
Everything you do is a choice. You may not like the choices that you have to pick from – but it is a choice. You can choose to do nothing – and see what happens – or you can choose to do something and hopefully end up with what you want. You always have a choice. Only you get to decide how you want to react to any given situation. Your attitude is 100% in your control. “If you change the way you look at things. The things you look at will change”.
The next time you are faced with having to make a choice try asking yourself:
- What’s my WIIFM? What do I want the end result to be? (You’ve got to name it to claim it)
- What do I want the other person’s response or reaction to be?
- Is there a lesson here? What am I suppose to be taking away from this so I don’t end up doing it again?
- What do I need to do to get what I want? How am I suppose to react?
Once you decide what you want – the how will reveal itself. So remember – the next time that you have to make a choice – take a deep breath – ask yourself a series of questions for clarity – and then react in a way that will get you what you want. Attitude – Your attitude – will make all the difference in the world. – Cheers, 🙂
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Enjoyed reading your article about the power to choose. I posted it on my Facebook Timeline for my Friends to read – Cheers,
I enjoyed reading your article. Thank you for sending it to me via my blogs posting. I wish you continued good writing. – Cheers, Brian
I view my cup as being too big! If my cup was the correct size, it would be completely full!
Too big – or you have to much on your plate and you need to let somethings go so that you can spend your time on those things that are most important to you? It’s all about choices Bill. Thanks for your comments. I appreciate you taking the time to read my post and to send your comments. – Cheers,