We all feel overwhelmed at times. We all feel tired and can’t seem to find the willpower to carry on. We all have self-doubt, feel unappreciated and wonder why we keep doing what we do. But what separates each and every one of us – is the strength we find within ourselves to get up off the floor and get back in this game we call life. Mind you some are better at it than others. And some decide to give it up all together and walk away. And that’s OK. It just means they haven’t figured out yet what they want to do with the opportunities they’ve been given. They are still searching for meaning in their lives. I believe we all have the capacity within ourselves to lead the kind of life we envisioned for ourselves. We all have the ability to change – to develop the kind of skills we need to be better at what we do.
Worth Remembering … “When you’re up to your neck in alligators it’s easy to forget that the initial objective was to drain the swamp” – Unknown
The question is – Are you willing to make the kinds of changes you’ll need to be more effective at what you are doing? Are you willing to make the kind of changes needed to learn how to communicate and listen more effectively, get along with others, manage your time or cope with stress? I believe we are all born a certain style which subconsciously dictates the way we act and react to what’s going on around us. We need to learn to react in a way that is going to get us what we want. How does a good communicator and listener act? What changes will you need to make to manage your time more effectively, to get along with others or cope with stress?
Worth Remembering … “Between stimulus and response is our greatest power – the freedom to choose.” – Stephen R. Covey
There are two things I know for certain about people. Motivation is inside out never outside in. People are motivated to change if they believe there is a payoff. They are motivated to make a change in their lives if they believe it is worth while. It’s what I call a WIIFM. (What’s in it for me). And the second thing I know for certain about people is that they get to decide how they want to react to any given situation. It’s a choice only they get to choose 100% of the time. No one else has the power over them to make them do something they don’t want to do. Now it’s true that we may not like the choices we have to choose from – but it’s a choice none the less.
Worth Remembering … “If it is important to you, you will find a way. If not – you’ll find an excuse” – Unknown
If you are feeling overwhelmed what changes do you need to make? Do you need to have a shorter to do list? Do you need to learn how to prioritize and manage your time more effectively? If you are feeling tired what changes do you need to make? Do you need to take more “Me” time to recharge your batteries to cope with the stress in your life? Do you need to learn how to say “No” to others so you can say “Yes” to yourself? If you have self-doubts, feel unappreciated and wonder why you keep doing what you’re doing what changes do you need to make? We are adults and adults can change. We can stop doing one thing and start doing another. And if we do it often enough it becomes us. When you change the habit you change the result. You can learn to act in a way that will get you what you want. You just have to decide what that is. Things won’t get better until you do.
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I really enjoyed the post … and am a big fan of the power of choices and consequences and the personal control we have over this. It is a mantra that I share regularly with clients, especially those who like to blame everything but their own choices.
Ultimately, we do have personal responsibility and accountability for that which we choose to do. Sometimes those choices are the lesser of two evils, maybe more. However, they still represent choice, which needs to be considered and determined!
Once the action is done, the consequences will unfold, often leading to more difficult choices. It is an eternal cycle, as constant as the sun setting and the moon rising!
Have a very Merry Christmas my friend and a Happy and Peaceful New Year!
Nice to hear from you John. I appreciate your comments. As you said “Sometimes those choices are the lesser of two evils, maybe more – however, they represent choice” If there is a lesson to be learned – learn it and move on. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you and yours John. 2014 is going to be an awesome year.
A very powerful post. Just today I was speaking with a team member about the power they gave to take care of themselves and that they held the key to their choices. There are times you have to take care of your self… first you must chose to do so.
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Always great to hear from you Tom. I appreciate your comment. I agree with you – there are times you have to take care of yourself. – Well said.