Stop the madness!!! You are producing a generation of wimps. Too much of a good thing – is not a good thing. In the “real” world not everyone gets to make the team, regardless of their skill level. In the “real” world they won’t be praised or promoted for being just good enough. And in the “real” world they may not get a second chance to make the wrong thing right, without paying the price for being wrong in the first place. In the “real” world there are consequences.
You are doing this newest generation a dis-service by not preparing them for life “outside” of the nest. The world can be a cruel place for someone who hasn’t been taught the skills needed to take on life’s challenges. The world can be a cruel place for someone who hasn’t been knocked down because they never learn how to get back up. The world can be a cruel place for someone who rarely heard the word “NO” while growing up.
Worth Remembering … “The depths and strength of a human character are defined by its moral reserves. People reveal themselves completely only when they are thrown out of customary conditions of their life, for only then do they have to fall back of their reserves.” – Leon Trotsky
Tough love, applied at the right time – for the right reasons – is not a bad thing. Tough love teaches you that life is not always fair. That you don’t get everything that you ask for. That bad things can happen to good people. Tough love teaches you to stand up on your own two feet and compete for what you want. Tough love teaches you that “You aren’t in Kansas anymore”. Tough love builds character, self-confidence and self-esteem.
Worth Remembering … “There is nothing more unequal than the equal treatment of unequal people.” – Thomas Jefferson
You can still be someones soft place to fall – just don’t make it too comfortable. When you eliminate honor rolls or deans list in schools because you don’t want to make those who just want to skate by feel inferior – you take away the incentive for the achievers who want to excel. You can’t build up someones self-worth by taking away someone else’s. When you no longer keep score because you don’t want the other team to “feel” discouraged – you take away a persons competitive spirit. If you don’t teach them the value of money, what it means to be independent and the feeling they’ll get from making it on their own – you are robbing them of their opportunity to grow. Stop the madness!!! You are producing a generation of wimps.
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Hi Brian ~ I see this issue still has you exercised! Good for you! John 🙂
I’m with you on this!
Thanks – I appreciate the comment. As Larry Winget would say “It’s time to grow a pair” – Cheers
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I appreciate the RT – Thank you
Fully agree with you Brian. A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest—and poverty will come on you like a thief and scarcity like an armed man! That is what happens when we do not take leadership at home. That is why we need courageous leaders in the workplace to make the calls that are right. But all this tempered by love…
Nice to hear from you Kimunya. You are correct – Always difficult to make the right call – True leaders do – pretenders don’t. Do you want to be loved – or respected? If given a choice true I think true leaders would rather be respected.
Thanks for the scope – Much appreciated