One thing you need to understand is that you are not going to change your boss. They’ve successfully managed and led others a certain way, so they don’t think they need to change. The key to managing your boss is to work with them in a way they like. How do they prefer communicating, interacting with others, receiving information, and managing their direct reports? If you can learn to work with them how they like, you’ll establish a great working relationship and will have discovered how to manage your boss and live to tell about it.

Whatever the circumstances of your life, understanding type can make your perceptions more transparent, your judgment sounder, and your life closer to your heart’s desire. – Isabel Briggs Myers.

When I was general manager of a major retailer, I had my team score a behavioural assessment tool based on Dr. William Marston’s DISC theory. Dr. Marston believed we are one of four types, D, I, S, or C, that greatly influence how we prefer to communicate and interact with others and how we manage and like to be managed. This gave me valuable insights into how to work with someone who preferred a different way of communicating and interacting.

D Type – Dominant. They walk fast, talk fast and make quick decisions. They are not big on detail, so don’t waste their time with pie charts, graphs and volumes of information. Make communication brief and to the point. They are razor-focused on the task and see no need for idle chit-chat. Be prepared for blunt, demanding approaches.

I Type – Interpersonal. Don’t be in a hurry. They prefer a relaxed and social environment. Relationships are essential to them. Let them verbalize their thoughts and feelings. They are great salespersons, so be prepared for someone who will attempt to persuade others. They would rather be liked than respected, so provide them with what they will need to make those tough decisions.

S Type – Steadiness. They have a built-in resistance to change. They don’t like to make waves. Be logical and systematic in your approach. They are great team players and like to maintain the status quo. They don’t like to make mistakes, so provide them with written and verbal instructions on implementing those changes.

C Type – Conscientious. They value high standards and strive for perfection. They are your best planners. Be prepared – make sure you know what you know. They have little patience for vague generalizations. They are all about detail, so they will double-check your work. If you don’t know the answer, don’t make stuff up. Tell them you don’t know, but you will find out and get back to them with the correct answer.

Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to understand ourselves better. – Carl Jung.

Remember, you are not going to change your boss. The best you can hope for is to work with them in a way they like. If you can adapt your behaviour to be more in tune with theirs, you’ve discovered how to manage your boss and live to tell about it.

Copyright 2024. This article was written by Brian Smith – Power Link Dynamics without AI assistance. It is not to be reproduced without permission. If you want to learn more about DISC and how it will help you to communicate and interact more effectively, build collaborative teams, resolve conflict and motivate others to perform at their best, contact Brian directly at brian@briansmithpld.com.