Conflict is inevitable when working with and interacting with others. It can diminish creativity, reduce productivity, impact decision-making and lead to a dysfunctional working environment. Building solid relationships with the people you work with and interact with is essential to resolving conflict and finding creative solutions. You don’t have to socialize with everyone you work with, but you must learn how to get along with them.
Peace is not the absence of conflict but the ability to cope. – Gandhi.
A recent study conducted by the HayGroup, a leading authority on emotional intelligence, concluded that EQ – soft skills – are twice as important as IQ – your technical ability – for most jobs. Soft skills are the new currency in today’s workplace. If you can’t communicate effectively, actively listen to what others say and get along with them, you stand little chance of successfully resolving conflict, finding creative ways to solve problems or negotiating wins.
If we can manage conflict constructively, we harness its energy for creativity and development. – Kaye
Generally speaking, there are three types of conflict; Disagreement, Misunderstanding and Actual Conflict. Here is what you’ll be able to do to resolve them.
Disagreement: When you have different opinions about a subject and neither has the authority to change them, resolve them quickly. When the discussion gets old, respect each other’s views and agree to disagree.
Misunderstanding; When communication breaks down, and only part of the message gets through, resolve it with courtesy, respectful assertiveness and, most importantly, good active listening skills. You may have missed something that the other person said. Have them restate their position, and you restate yours.
Actual Conflict; You may not like them, and they may not like you. Try to separate the person from the problem and focus on their needs. Come up with all the options available to you to resolve the situation. Be sure the solutions are based on objective standards. They can’t be because you said so.
Conflict is good in a negotiation process – it’s a clash of two ideas, which then, all being well, produces a third idea. – Roberts.
When conflict happens, step back momentarily and decide what you are prepared to do to fix it. Communication is the breakfast of champions. If you can learn to communicate your point of view so that the other person will understand and actively listen to what they have to say. In that case, you will be better positioned to resolve the conflict and find a creative solution you can agree on. Conflict is inevitable; how you resolve it is optional.
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Yes, I admit it. I was once a control freak! I was an “old school” micro-manager. Trust me – in my 40+ year career as an award-winning entrepreneur and general manager for a major corporation, I’ve made my fair share of mistakes. I’m here to confess my number one sin in the hope that first-time supervisors, managers and business leaders will learn what not to do. I also think there’s a lesson here for seasoned veterans who developed their management style in the late 1960’s like I did. Social psychologist Douglas McGregor referred to it as a “Theory X” style of management. Managers who adopted this style believed that workers were inherently lazy and needed to be bullied or brow-beaten into performing their work. Employees were never to question authority. “Do as I say – not as I do. When I tell you to jump – the only thing you can ask is how high”. There are still a number of managers and business leaders out there who continue to manage and lead that way. They manage and lead by intimidation. I’m here to tell you the days of the “Bully Boss” are over.
Would you work for you? Would you work for a Boss who belittles you, and berates you in front of your co-workers, instead of behind closed doors? Would you work for a Boss who always needs to be right – even when they are wrong.? Would you work for a Boss who promises you something one day – and then takes it away from you the next? Does this sound all too familiar? Chances are we’ve all worked for a Boss just like that. I believe great Bosses aren’t born – they’re made. If given the chance, what kind of Boss would you be? Take a moment and think about that. If you had to put a list together of the top ten things a great Boss should be – what would you put on your list?
Why women make better leaders can be summed up in just one word – “Empathy”. (The ability to see it from another person’s point of view). Women seem to come by it naturally, while most men have to work at it. Dee Dee Myers – author of “Why Women Should Rule The World” believes that women are more successful at managing small businesses because women can make people accountable for their actions but, they are also there to support them. “Females have the trait, where maybe most males do not”. Mary Matalin, former counsellor to President George W. Bush and Vice President Cheney was quoted as saying – “Women around the world are rewriting history at a ferocious pace with or without mans permission”. It’s easy to argue that men haven’t been doing such a good job lately of managing things. That’s not a political statement – I’m just stating the facts. In the words of Bob Dylan – “The times they are a changing”.
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